If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.

Over the past few weeks, several friends recommended that I watch ‘The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel’.  I had honestly never heard of it before, but I’ve learned to listen when something comes across my path over and over.  So, last night I sat down and watched it and I have to say, I loved it!  It’s well done and has lots of great messages to share.  One line was used a number of times throughout the film and it really stuck with me – “Everything will be all right in the end… if it’s not all right then it’s not yet the end.”

What a great quote!  It speaks to the optimist in me and reminds me of something that has been a driving force in my life – to keep moving forward, no matter what.  It is often difficult for many of us to see or even believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  We get stuck in our current circumstances and spend far too much time and energy trying to figure out what we could have done differently to not end up where we are.

The truth is we all are being our very best in every moment.  Where you are right now is less about one specific event or incident and more about every moment in your life leading you to this one.  It isn’t good or bad, it just is and spending your energy trying to analyze and isolate that one thing that you could have done differently to possibly change your situation isn’t going to help.  It won’t help because it won’t do the one thing that you want it to do – change where you are right now.

That doesn’t mean that it isn’t okay to learn from what we perceive as mistakes we’ve made – that’s how we grow.  But dwelling on them won’t do anything to change the past.  What it will do is steal the joy you could have right now and after all, right now is all we have.  The really good news is that your current circumstances will change, that’s guaranteed.  How things change and where that leads you are really up to you and what you decide to do with this moment, right here, right now.  That’s all you have to figure out and trust that if you aren’t where you want to be, you won’t be here for long.  And remember, everything will be all right in the end… if it’s not all right then it’s not yet the end.